Mother-In-Law And Sister-In-Law Attempt To Bully Woman Into Being A Stay-At-Home Mom

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    Product - r/AmItheAsshole . Posted by u/Imaginary_Agency991 10 hours ago 1244 2 582 AITA for not wanting to be a SAHM?
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    Font - Okay I already know it sounds bad but I 35f and my husband Jeff 37m are currently expecting a boy (his first child my second) I got pregnant with my first when I was 18 and his dad was never in the picture. I work as a substance abuse counselor and I love my job, this is where it gets tricky my job offered me 8 weeks PTO for when I have our son. I've been so happy because I didn't want to go right back to work soon.
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    Font - Me and Jeff got together when I turned 30 and he moved in with me because I own my house, we just got married this year and have talked about childcare multiple times so he knows I don't want to be a SAHM. Well I'm due in November and he just brought the idea up, I was very confused because we've already talked about this. But I guess my MIL and SIL believe I should stay home with our son, "as a mother and wife" I just don't understand where their opinions come in because I already know w
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    Font - All three of them sat me down to have this talk, and they want me to focus on the kids, cleaning up the house, making dinner and all of that but I already work and do those things. Well MIL decided to throw it in my face that I never got to be a SAHM because I was a single mom going to school and working, which she's not wrong but it definitely made me pissed that she brought it up. I told them that I worked so hard to give my son a good life, and having another baby
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    Font - doesn't change my decision to keep doing something that I absolutely love doing. And that if they all want someone to take care of the house and kids all day, then Jeff should be a SAHD because I make more money than him and it would make more sense for him to stay home instead of me.
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    Font - It turned absolutely horrible after that, I got yelled at by MIL and SIL that it's not his "role" as a father to do those things. That he's the man of the house, and should be the one making the money. Jeff just stood there not saying anything, and I blew up and reminded all of them that it is MY house not his, I kicked MIL and SIL out and Jeff is so mad at me that he went with them. He said he won't come back till I apologize to all three of them.
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    Sky - So AITA for not wanting to be a SAHM?
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    Font - finkplamingoes 10 hr. ago Colo-rectal Surgeon [39] Holy shit, NTA. The thought of my husband bringing my SIL and MIL into MY house to tell me what to do with my life, especially after discussing with him exactly what I want, makes my blood boil!! I'm so sorry you had to go through that. I'd seriously reconsider your relationship with your husband, and lay down strict boundaries about inviting others into your home NOW, if you even want to stay with him.
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    Font - False-Explanation702 - 9 hr. ago Pooperintendant [58] My vote is the husband set up MIL and SIL to deliver this message. And he didn't do it with the goodness in his heart of having the baby have a SAHM, he did it so OP would take care of him like his mom used to. Flags, flags everywhere.
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    Font - IpsumDolorous 10 hr. ago Partassipant [2] NTA, but your SO and his family sure are. Their ideas on gender roles are extremely outdated and harmful, and the fact that Jeff agrees with them enough to leave the house and wants to force you to apologize to them is a huge problem. Like, I cannot overstate how big of an issue this is and what a bad portend this is for your relationship and for your future child together.
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    Rectangle - Stoneman57 6 hr. ago NTA and time to change the locks. Sorry OP, but your SO and in-laws sound exhausting. Do not allow them to dictate your life. Good luck!
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    Font - fairfaxleasee 10 hr. ago Partassipant [1] NTA and I'd think long and hard before letting any of them back in.

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